Have you been wondering where the spark went lately? Do you just know that your boyfriend doesn’t feel totally, over-the-moon excited to come home to you anymore? Is it because you feel the same way? Have you stopped planning time with your friends entirely because, hey, you have your boyfriend! Same thing!
When you’ve been with your partner for a while, you know all of his insecurities, he knows all of your food allergies, you’ve seen his dirty underwear, and he’s seen your granny underwear, it can be easy to slip accidentally into being just friends instead of boyfriend and girlfriend. And there are mistakes you’re making that could be making it worse.
1.YOU ARE SENDING HIM FOR PMS SUPPLIES:
Do I need anything from the grocery store? Absolutely. Rocky Road, Cookies N’ Cream, Midol, Advil, Whiskey, Tequila, popcorn, whatever Julia Roberts films they have on DVD, a heating pad, a cool pad…oh um, whatever you want too. It’s nice to have someone to care for you at this time, but treating him like an errand boy will get old quick.
2.YOU ARE SHAVING YOUR VAGINA IN FRONT OF HIM:
You’re going for it: you’re putting your leg up on the wall, lathering up, and doing a detail job right in front of your man.
3.YOU ARE ASKING ”DO YOU CARE IF I SHAVE MY LEGS”:
You don’t just shave your legs for nothing! You ask your boyfriend if he cares if you let your hair grow a few more days. In fact, you ask him, “How many more days are you okay with? You just let me know.”
4.YOU ONLY DRESS UP FOR OTHER PEOPLE:
“Are we meeting anyone at the restaurant? No. Okay cool, so I don’t need to get dressed up.”
5.YOU SAY YOUR MENU CONCERN OUT LOUD:
“Mmmmm. No. Corn constipates me. Hmmm cheese bloats me. That thing makes my pee smell. Ooohh that one makes me gassy.”
6.YOU TELL HIM HOW HOT YOUR FRIEND IS:
You describe to him in detail how hot your friend is. You noticed when she changed in front of you. You tell your boyfriend about her wax job, all of her curves, and somehow expect him not to now envision her naked.
7.YOU TELL HIM HOW HOT HIS FRIEND IS:
You also tell your boyfriend how hot hisfriend is. You rave about his style, and the way his voice sounds like he could be a radio broadcaster from the 40s, and how he is buff but not too buff, ya know?
8.YOU ARE NOT PRIORITIZING SEX:
Sleep comes before sex. Eating pizza comes before sex. Watching TV comes before sex—and not even good shows! Bad shows. Talking about why there is no time to have sex comes before having sex.
9.YOU SAY THAT WOMAN IS YOUR TYPE:
When you’re out at a restaurant or bar, you scan the other women in the room and say, “What do you think of that woman? I could see you with somebody like that. She seems artsy and well-traveled.”
10.YOU DON’T SET ASIDE ALONE TIME:
Friends need a place to crash? You invite them over. Friends want a place to watch the Super Bowl? You open up your home. You never say no to having people over, or meeting people out. You forget to put aside time to be alone together.
11.YOU ARE BECOMING HIS BEST FRIEND’S BEST FRIEND:
His best friend is hilarious and fun. Why wouldn’t you become his other best friend? Now you go with your boyfriend and his best friend to everything. Your boyfriend is starting to struggle to differentiate between you and Jim.
12.YOU ARE VENTING TO HIM TOO MUCH:
You have absolutely no filter left. You tell your boyfriend every single annoying sound your coworker made and every piece of gossip exchanged in the work room. Why call your best friend about this stuff when your boyfriend is sitting right there?